Big Thanks and Credit to Bill Griffith and Zippy
Retarded Adolescent Rebellion Or,
How To Deal With Dormant Brained Complaints
Every once in a while I get an generally senseless and/or usually angry letter, or bulletin board post that essentially tells me I am full of crap. There are many psychological reasons why someone would fly into an irrational diatribe over my web site or book. But one underlying cause, which any thinking adult can easily spot when it occurs is as follows (in a letter in that I replied to one such irrational rant:
Dear Bob,
T.D. Lingo invented a new descriptive term at the brain lab for what you are doing. It's called Retarded
Adolescent Rebellion. It is what happens when an individual reacts by rebelling against any
authority figure (me in this case) to express his own struggling independence and value as an
individual. But in the case of RAR, it is an unintelligent, non-thinking, reptilian brain, futile
attempt. It is just like spinning tires in the mud and going nowhere.
Rebellion against authority/parent/teacher is a natural and healthy function of growing
up. It helps the individual grow. It is testing one's muscles, giving the individual a feeling
of self-worth, it helps one to grow up, to exert oneself. To leave the nest. By rebelling,
and then being corrected/counter-challenged by older parent or teacher the rebellious individual is forced
to re-examine his beliefs, the established "line", learn his mistakes, and even improve
upon those facts and assumptions made by authority. Both benefit. But this is only the
case if rebellious teen/youth is willing to examine rebellion/argument using logic and
intelligence-frontal lobes skills.
If the individual merely rebels without using deep intelligence- and just rebels like a
crazed chimpanzee without carefully examining facts and evidence- then nothing is
gained. Rebellious youth merely sucks energy from all around him. "I WANT
ATTENTION!!!! LISTEN TO MEEEEEEEE!" By ranting, yelling "YOU SUCK"
without employing true creative-intuitive-cooperative-intelligence, the rebel merely
describes his own state of mind ("I suck") and like an ever hungry vacuum cleaner,
adds nothing to positive life sustaining environment. Reptile Rebel only demands
attention, and disrupts collective growing situation- takes, yet gives nothing.
Argument for argument sake.
Fight for fight's sake. Insult
for insult's sake. The payoff is
temporary release of pent up anger and frustration. Temporary,
because the cause remains: The internal trauma memories and emotions
caused by uncaring, un-nurturing parents, teachers, and peers. Failure in
life. The R.A.R. individual was never taught
the advanced frontal lobes brain skills of CICIL--- true creativity,
imagination, cooperation, intuition, and logic. So,
the R.A.R. brain continues to hurt, and the poor individual remains
stuck in rebellion and perceives enemies everywhere--- because the
enemies are in fact internalized. The R.A.R.
individual must evolve internally and develop true CICIL skills-- or
remain doomed forever.
Unless this non-thinking, reptilian attacking individual can grow beyond such temper
tantrums, and learn how to pinpoint argument, and accurately find and offer real
solutions missed by older parent/teacher/authority and help community, the growth of the
individual is stopped. One continues ranting into adulthood. No reason, no logic, no
proper argument. Growth into true mature reasoning adulthood is RETARDED.
Retarded Adolescent Rebellion.
The angry male chimp pounds on his chest "Me me
me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm right and you're wrong!!!!!!!"
He makes a lot of noise and gets his rocks off. But at
an enormous price. Nobody wants to be friends
with a loud, angry, stupid gorilla brain. No
friends, crappy job, unhappiness, illness, shortened life expectancy. Decide
if you are stuck in R.A.R. or if
you will grow into full brain power. Yours
truly, Neil
BUT
WAIT- THERE'S MORE! Oh
gosh, what I have to put up with some times.... But hey, that's part of
having a public web site that gets thousands of hits a day... It goes with
the territory. A couple
times a year I get a nasty email- like one from "Bob" above. It
is almost ALWAYS anonymous. It's like these kinds of people are too
paranoid and too embarrassed to use the actual name on their driver's
license. I think it goes along with the rest of the reptile brain
overloaded circuits- And
its always over something INCREDIBLY UNIMPORTANT that this person has TOTAL
control over themselves- but since they are clicked backwards into
nearsighted reptile brain- they can't see it. Like- "Stop
sending me so many emails!!! ARGGHGHGUGH!!" Okay,
okay, calm down. Click on the unsubscribe button.... there ya go! From
our
Your
Great Brain Adventure Newsletter: (much more below this if you've
already seen it..)
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Do you ever feel like people are unloading their garbage on you- and
YOU ARE SUCH A NICE PERSON?!
Of course you don't deserve it.
"People are strange." -Jim Morrison.
There's different frontal lobes solutions to this problem of people dumping on you.
1) Ignore it.
2) Give an honest opinion back.
2) Make fun of it, twist some humor out of it.
3) Use it to your advantage- make lemonade out of a lemon.
Pretending someone's dumb remarks or actions don't exist-- well sometimes that works, but sometimes it's like burying your head in the
sand. Often the best solution is to make lemonade.
In my position as Brain Web Site Guy, I will get the occasional dumb
hate mail from a frustrated web surfer. It doesn't happen often, and
for me, its only about once or twice a year. Astounding percentage considering I'm now getting 400,000 hits a month on my web site.
Once in a while I make a dumb stupid mistake myself, and deserve a scolding to get it right.
But more often, a piece of angry hate mail is just somebody stuck in
frustrating reptile brain, and I'm the target.
When some doofus does something dumb, you can turn it into something
constructive and helpful... (Like this here web page)
The MORAL of the story?
When somebody tries to ruin your HOLIDAY SPIRIT--- just click forward
and JUDO FLIP their negative energy into positive growth energy for
yourself and everybody else.
And YOU are doing it (not them) with your advanced smiling FRONTAL LOBES CREATIVITY.
You are recycling garbage into fertilizer.
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Anyway,
often when anybody sends me some totally bogus, mis-informed, hateful, mis-directed
communication, I tell it like it is. Please,
do not confuse me with Mr. Rogers (one of my heroes, and a great guy
actually.) Unlike Mr.
Rogers, when someone is full of crap, I may very well give them my full and honest
opinion. And often I use words that we would not hear Mr. Rogers use on
his PBS children's show. Boy...
(play this link) 
No
you won't hear the pope using the language I sometimes use, nor the
Teletubby crew. This
of course, delights my attackers, as they then believe they now have
evidence that "NEIL HAS CLICKED BACKWARDS!!!!! We've GOT HIM
NOW!!!!!!!" I
hate to shock anybody, but, yes, I use FOUR LETTER WORDS. I am not
Saint Slade, nor Brain Guru of the Month. I do not want followers or
hypnotized blind devotes of Unreal Neural Niceness. The
first time I cursed loud enough for somebody to hear it across the street was in the 5th grade, when my best friend accidentally
shish-ka-bobbed my big toe with a long handled dandelion picker that more
resembled a ZULU war spear. I
don't use "bad words" on the radio, or TV, and rarely in my books (do I ever?
Can't remember.... Don't think so.) But
when I am talking to people one on one, yes you can here me utter one of
those "bad words" that the FCC would fine you a million dollars
for saying on Regis and Kathy Lee, or whoever the new girl is. Anyway, here's
a typical example that happened this week.... Somebody
joins my email list, Your Great Brain Adventure. Its
a voluntary thing. I send
out emails on a regular basis-- sometimes only once every couple of weeks,
sometimes several times a week. If you average it out over the past four
years, its been about once a week maybe. I have learned, however, that
people do like a couple messages a week, so more recently its been closer
to that. If there's a
problem with the web server, I inform people via the list-- as that's it's
PURPOSE, to inform people of news and web site information. Well
DUH! Anyway--
I get this ANGRY reptilian reactive email from this fellow-- (and this is the ONLY such email
I've ever gotten complaining that I've sent out TOO MANY NEWSLETTER EMAILS)
(!). He
calls me a liar, and quotes me that I promised to send out only "one email a
week AT MOST", and that I need to keep my word. GOSH
DARN IT!! I SENT OUT A NEWSLETTER-- SEVERAL IN FACT-- IN A WEEK!! This
could cause severe disruption of our economic stability, cause serious
mental anguish among the population at large, and has been known to reduce
milk production in long haired goats. 1)
I'm misquoted, and have never said "one email a week AT MOST".
GPs brain has hallucinated a fantasy that supports his crabby complaint. What I
state exactly, and have for YEARS (go look using the archived page link
below from Feb 2003) is:
"generally one email a week."
It's been more and its been less, and
this statement is archived on an independent web site. That's what
GENERALLY means.
Well Duh again. http://web.archive.org/web/20030205224602/http://neilslade.com/ As
it turns out, I'm finding that with two emails a week, and the occasional
three, I am getting a much more favorable response from email list
subscribers. And when the server breaks down I keep people informed before
they start emailing me "Hey Neil baby, where's
the page you're referring to in our newsletter???" So
yesterday I changed it to "one or two"
emails a week, just so a few over stimulated people don't have a conniption
fit if they get a couple of emails as a surprise. Needless to say- GP later
claimed "he had control over me and so I changed my web site to bolster
my claims." Oh brother... No,
I don't send out emails to annoy people, or to get unwanted attention. People enjoy
getting Brain Adventure Emails after they sign up on the newsletter list.
What a strange idea! 2)
Anyone is free to join, and unsubscribe at any time, with instructions on
each and every email. When
I politely tell the fellow what the score is, he remains TRULY clicked backwards
into attack mode, and so then I use the BIG BAD WORD and instruct him to
unsubscribe if he feels like he's getting bombarded. This
of course leads to REPTILE BRAIN REVENGE on his part, COUNTER ATTACK
("Why don't you be more like my new age hero author..) and he then
goes on to THREATEN and PLOT COUNTER ATTACK by telling Radio Gods Art Bell and George
Noory (bless 'em) what a BAD MAN I am... and how he will EXPOSE ME TO THE
WORLD!!! OH
GOOD GRIEF CHARLIE BROWN!!!!! I
could chose to ignore this kind of stupidity, and I most often do. But
sometimes folks, I JUST
TELL IT LIKE IT IS. If
you are adult with functional frontal lobes, you can handle it. If
you are a child mind, with "90% Dormant Brain" clicked
backwards-- you can't. Like
Brain Researcher T.D.A. Lingo told me twenty years ago-- "a person with
his amygdala clicked backwards can't say- "Oops, I made a
mistake." Anyway,
most of the transcripts are below. Have fun, and learn....
From: "gptech"
<gpxxx@xxx.com> (real email obliterated to
protect the guilty)
> > To: <YourGreatBrainAdventure-owner@yahoogroups.com>
> > Sent: Tuesday, November 30, 2004 3:36 AM
> > Subject: Re: [Your Great Brain Adventure BRAIN WEB
> > SITE UP NOW
> >
> >
> > >
> > > Hi Neil,
> > >
> > > Please stop sending so many e-mails.
> > >
> > > I subscribed to your list after reading your words
> > > saying: "(e-mails would be about one-per-week,
at
> > > most)".
> > >
> > > Please keep your word about this.
*** MY RESPONSE: >
> I would rather keep people informed when glitches
> > occur to avoid confusion
> > especially when I supply a link, and then the server
> > bogs down.
> >
> > If you look at the dates of postings, you will see
> > that I do keep my word. > > If you
are not satisfied with the way I run my own
> > list, you are free to
> > unsubscribe.
> > Otherwise, I don't think you have much to worry
> > about.
> >
> > cheers
> >
> > Neil
> >
*** Anonymous GP's REPLY: >
A lie. Indeed, I did look at the dates of your
> postings.
>
> You have again sent me multiple e-mails on consecutive
> dates. You sent me an email on 12/4, two emailings on
> 12/5, and yet another on 12/6.
>
> If you have not already read it (or re-read) - you may
> find practical spiritual value in The Celestine
> Prophecy. It talks about a unhealthy drive for
> "taking attention" from others.
>
> I have removed my address from your yahoo group
> e-mailing list.
>
> Please do not e-mail me again.
>
> You'll do better, Neil. In time. *** MY
REPLY (and now my response after being called a liar and accused
of "taking attention" from 5300 people who have
voluntarily signed up and have been on my email list for years--!)
Oh, and if you want to be sure to get another email from me, just
call me a liar and then "don't send me any more
emails" ;-) >Why
don't you just unsubscribe.
>I have 5350 members who are all happy with the messages I
send.
>If you're not, use your f***ing brain and unsubscribe.
>Simple. Hey, it looks
and sounds pretty simple to me! I then
respond to the advice that I should look into a decade old derivative
new age pop culture work of fiction (Hey, some people liked it, I
did not... its a free country, ain't it?) The Frontal lobes say
"each entitled to their own opinion." The guy sold a
zillion copies a decade ago, I don't think he cares what I think.
Okay, so I'm using poetic license here in a rejection of a
pop-culture best seller that is supposed to have some lesson I
need to learn about when to send out emails (totally irrelevant
here) , and this lesson is contained in one of GP's favorite new
age books....)
>PS
>The Celestine Prophecy is b****t new age BOREDOM, a book
that gathers
nothing but dust everywhere now.
>I looked at it, and couldn't stand to finish it.
(I quote GP here) > You'll do better, Neil. In
time.
Well, with one less smart ass off my email list, yes, most
certainly.
*** GP
then GETS REVENGE (well, in his little brain anyway)
(nyah hah hahahahaha!! So DASTARDLY A DEVIL HE IS~!!) And
emails copies of my correspondence to Radio Gods Art Bell and
George Noory... Like I've done something
HORRIBLE!!! Like I would be embarrassed! Like
I would give a shit! (is
this funny, or what?) I email GP back: GPTECH,
You also can't read and misquoted me
> > > I subscribed to your list after reading your words
> > > saying: "(e-mails would be about one-per-week,
at
> > > most)".
From the web site, exact quote:
" Join our group and you will receive great Brain Info
Updates, Fun Stories
and Brain Tips, generally once a week. This list remains strictly
confidential and will NOT be used for any other purposes
whatsoever. "
Sometimes I send once a week, sometimes more. If the site goes
down, I tell
people, especially after posting a message and then the server
fails and
they can't find the posting.
The complete history of the messages are posted.
Frankly, I am delighted when critics mis-quote me, and then give
me advice,
because I can then let them know
how full of crap they are. And I do it in the most colorful
language I can
think of.
Be sure and tell Art and George this as well. But frankly, I don't
think it
matters to them.
Neil
*** It
turns out, I already emailed Art and George, because I figured
this crackpot was bothering them, and it was also a good excuse to
thank them for previous support and let them know what I had been
up to during the previous year...
Dear Art and George,
Thanks for the ongoing mention
of my information in your archives.
On occasion, I hear from a
malcontent kook, who looks for something to complain about
concerning my site and/or books/CDs/DVDS, and who then
doubtless bitches to you guys about. Sorry you have to
endure this kind of garbage on rare occasion-- as I do
myself.
Despite not appearing on your
show since October 2004, at present, according to my web
site statistics, I am getting an average of 400,000 hits per
month on my website- and growing each month.
One of Germany's most prestigious
and largest publishers, Rowohlt Verlage, is publishing a
German translation of my Frontal Lobes Supercharge book in
2005.
A major United Kingdom magazine,
Natural Health is doing a feature article on my work, by
English journalist Douglas Cartwright in January 2005.
In Hong Kong, publisher and
award winning animator and illustrator Frank Ferrao is
publishing Brain Magic for Kids, a set of books and CDs for
parents and kids. The FLSupercharge book has already been
translated into Chinese by Dr. Julia Lu.
Movie producer and brain lab
documentary filmmaker Peter Garrity has contacted me last
week about a re-visit documentary about the brain lab,
Lingo, and my work for either/or the History and Discovery
channel networks, for which his partner regularly has
programs aired.
Current Amazing Brain Adventure
(my company) DVD and movie projects are ongoing and
scheduled for release in the coming weeks.
Thanks again for your continued
support.
Neil Slade
*** OKAY--
THIS TALE BORDERS ON THE BORING-- but there's nothing as boring as a
complainer who's got it all wrong, so let's continue and wrap it up... I
write the following follow ups to GP: Sorry GP,
I already beat you to the punch and happily copied all messages
and sent to
them.
And they can read.
If this is what you consider important-- sigh.
Yes, the Celestine Prophecy--- a wonderful new age re-write of
Carlos
Casteneda from thirty years ago.
Boring. Boring. Boring. Could not stand it. Nothing original
or new.
Yes, many people LOVED it.
I was not one of them.
Welcome to America-- where you are free to like, or dislike
a book.
Now, I must get back to work--
This week I got 100,000 hits on my web site, and there are other
people that
are more fun for me to email than yourself.
And maybe it will occur to you that you are also bothering Art and
George as
well.
Neil
*** GP THEN THREATENS TO EXPOSE
ME on, oh my god---his consumer advocacy site!!! OH
MY GOSH!!!!!!! HELP ME DEAR LORD!!! FROM
GP: You have given me some wonderful material for
my
consumer advocacy website.
I look forward to publishing your e-mails to give the
general public a more human view of you and your
material.
I have to agree, though - "clicking forward" and most
that you promote on your web site is indeed powerful,
productive and effective.
It is interesting to see the unconscious, reactive,
"clicked backward" behavior that you have displayed so
publicly. In a way it makes your positive, creative
work more believable, human and real.
gp
*** My
Frontal Lobes Fearless Response: FROM
NEIL: PLEASE POST EVERYTHING. Do me a favor!
I love it!
Do you think I CARE or take your anonymous complaints and mis-information
and mis-quotes seriously?
Do you think anybody does?
HAHAHAHAHA!
Do you think Art, George, or anyone else with a decent mind takes
what you
are saying seriously?
As much as I like Art and George, do you think I measure
everything I say by
how it will sit with them and their other guests?
There's plenty out there that I consider boring, bullshit, wrong,
unimaginative. Do you want a LIST? (see my site, its already
there)
Come on! Are you kidding??
You are a colossal jester.
Please-- print everything I write everywhere on the web.
It's a good
example of the kind of bullshit people
send me and claim as "intelligent and common sense" ,
when there is no sense
in any of it.
Maybe I'll make a page myself-- its good for people
seriously looking at
brain and behavior to see the kind of crap I have to put up with
once or
twice a year.
Now, get your facts straight next time and maybe I won't spank you
on your
hiney so hard.
Neil Slade
www.NeilSlade.com
The AMAZING No Bullshit Facts Straight Tells It Like It Is Brain
Adventure *** I
was getting bored with GP's nonsense, and deleted a couple of
emails quickly, enough is enough. However I did remember this
specifically from one of his deleted rants... GP
further asserts that I changed the wording on my web site, and
that he "has power over me that I would
change the wording on my site" !! I
politely inform him that the wording on my web page regarding the
email list has been the same for years--- until two days ago when
I changed it and added "or twice"
> " Join our group and you will receive great Brain Info
Updates, Fun Stories
> and Brain Tips, generally once or
twice a week. This list remains
strictly
> confidential and will NOT be used for any other purposes
whatsoever. "
>
...So
that anybody who gets more than one email from me per week won't
go into cardiac arrest. :-) I
also thought it was a great idea to put this on the web, so people
can see the kind of nonsense I put up with on occasion. AND
SO HERE WE ARE! I KEEP MY WORD. Have
Fun Brain Explorers, and unlike GP here, good grief, continue to
use that wonderful common sense of yours... ************* FEEDBACK
(The EMAIL from INTELLIGENT BRAIN PEOPLE):
He
must have too much ‘time on his hands’ and is angry about
it---Feel free to post the fact that I love your emails!
Here’s to another wonderful Wednesday on the planet, missy
Ps.
Perhaps he is nervous about the Holidays J
Missy
Dorn Warner
http://www.gottagotravel.com
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----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, December 09, 2004 3:52 PM
Subject: Re: [Your Great Brain Adventure Brain
Self-Defense
Neil, you have been generous to a fault by giving attention to
GP who is so undeserving. Is it possible that you
actually caught him in one of his better moods?
Most of us consider your contributions a gift.
Continued success
Cecelia Alston
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, December 08, 2004 5:32 PM
Subject: Re: [Your Great Brain Adventure Brain
Self-Defense
I enjoyed this one. Thanks Ben
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----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, December 08, 2004 6:11 PM
Subject: Re: [Your Great Brain Adventure Brain
Self-Defense
Cool :)
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----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, December 08, 2004 6:24 PM
Subject: Check out Retarded Adolescent Rebellion
Retarded
Adolescent Rebellion SOME PEOPLE ARE SO NARROW MINDED THEY CAN
SEE THRU A KEYHOLE WITH BOTH EYES. HO HO HO
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----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, December 08, 2004 9:46 PM
Subject: Hi There Neil
Hi Neil,
Just
wanted you to know, that my band Rhythmfyx has (finally) our first
gig coming up in January. We are playing in one of the really good
places to play in Columbus, Ohio. Near where I live of course. I
put the drummer up to getting our gigs, but, after about five
months of no gigs, I decided to take matters into my own hands. So
after clicking forward I decided where to go. The club is called
Ruby Tuesday (not the restaurant). Near OSU Campus. I also played
a solo accoustic gig tonight that I set up. I have to tell you
though Neil that at first I was scared as hell. Playing with the
rest of the band is easy but, when you are up there all alone and
all eyes are on you, you either shrink down chicken out and go
home to live the rest of your life in obscurity or you rise up to
the occasion get in front of that microphone and play, and sing
your heart out. Which is exactly what I did. It was a frontal
lobes test for myself Neil. If I can do this, then I can do
anything. So I did it. And the feedback I got was so positive and
the applause and whistles were so uplifting that I am now HOOKED
Forever. I want to play everywhere. I thought of you when I got up
on that stage Neil I really did. And I thought about all of the E
mails the brainexplorer mass emails, and all that I have learned
in my life. It all culminated into one moment in time and in that
one moment I found myself. I found that I have the courage to take
the necessary risks as well as to put forth all that I have to
accomplish, what, until now, seemed impossible and only a dream.
So thank you NEIL, for EVERYTHING. Your Friend Kevin Allen Cotter
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Sent: Wednesday, December 08, 2004 9:28 PM
Subject: Re: [Your Great Brain Adventure Brain Self-Defense
Neil,
I've followed your website for a couple of years now and have read
about using your techniques with children. I've just begun a
new job teaching extended resource kindergarten and students with
very low reading scores. Would your material work with
children in grades k-1, most of whom have very low skills?
When I read that your Brain Magic for Kids being published in Hong
Kong, it triggered my thinking along the lines of the possibility
of trying to teach my students your methods. Since two of
them are Down Syndrome, and the third is autistic, I don't know
how much they'd be able to understand what this is about.
Just wondering.
Thanks for all you do, including the many emails!
Sincerely,
Rochelle
[I respond:
I taught Brain Magic for School Kids over 15
years ago-- an entire elementary school, 600 students, and the
faculty.
The basic principals remain the same for all,
regardless of learning skills--- mostly, its how the teacher
approaches the students- My Have Fun- Anti -Rules bookwas the
second book I wrote, and came from my 25 years of teaching kids.
That is a crucial book for you to look at.
I've actually gotten a letter from autistic
adults, and they found the material very useful. Look in the
SEARCH on the YGBA yahoo page.
Simple brain activities and methods can be
taught to all- period. And it should be starting in
Kindergarten.
Thanks for your feedback.
Neil]
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----- Original Message -----
Sent: Friday, December 10, 2004 12:53 AM
Subject: Re: [Your Great Brain Adventure Brain Self-Defense
Hi Neil,
Despite the million and one things I have to do, I felt compelled to
send you a "high five" for the way you handled gptech.
Hahahahaha...it cracked me up so much...the back and forth emailing.
I had a similar thing that happened to me earlier this year. And
yes, using your frontal lobes to deal with reptilian brain
people...it's a no brainer!
Lsf
----- Original Message -----
From: "Mark Hasslinger"
Sent: Wednesday, December 08, 2004 8:21 PM
Subject: Re: [Your Great Brain Adventure
Brain Self-Defense
>
> Nails,
> Da theme song is Bobby McFaren's (I don't pretend to know how
to spell his
> name, but what the hey! be happy!) Don't Worry Be Happy, do
do do da dolu!
> Markhas
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